I recently attended a workshop by the amazing Barbara Olinger on this topic. I was over 8 months pregnant at the time, and desperate for ideas on how to handle “welcoming” the new baby with my toddler.
Some workshop highlights include the following:
Have “special time” daily with the older child.
Let someone else hold the baby for a while. Your other child needs you, also.
Don’t make any deliberate major changes to you parenting, home, schedule, activities, or lifestyle for at least two months before or after the baby comes.